00:00:00 - 00:00:21
Gino Wickman
Hello and welcome back. This episode I simply call "Judgment." I'm going to begin with a question, and the question is: why do we care so much about what others think of us?
00:00:22 - 00:00:50
Gino Wickman
Now as I go into this episode, the feeling I'm having is I'm going to slow my cadence down just a little bit. You can speed up the podcast if you want to, but I would urge you not to because I'm doing it this way to hopefully bypass your ego and speak directly to your soul. Hopefully that wasn't scary for you.
00:00:51 - 00:01:38
Gino Wickman
In creating context for this conversation, I've shared in the past something I call the Judgment Triple Whammy. We human beings experience the Judgment Triple Whammy, which is three forms of judgment in our life.
The first form is where we judge others.
The second form is where we judge ourselves.
The third form is where we worry about the judgment of others.
So the third form is where others judge us.
And just a quick side note on that, it's all ego. All judgment is ego. Hold that thought.
00:01:38 - 00:02:29
Gino Wickman
The focus on today's podcast episode is all about number three: others judging us.
As we're focusing on number three, you might want to keep the background numbers one and two in mind again. The judgment of ourselves and us judging others may be the root of why we care so much about what others think of us. It's always a mirror.
Just keep that in the background. That's a heavy thought. Hopefully it made sense.
But we're going to focus again on number three: others judging us.
00:02:29 - 00:03:07
Gino Wickman
Where this is coming up and how this is coming up has happened many times throughout my life.
But where this came to the surface was in a recent Shine meeting.
If you're not aware of what a Shine meeting is, it's for people who have read Shine. Six to twelve people get together and talk about the content of Shine.
I hold a Shine meeting every month. That meeting is closed, but others host Shine meetings. If you're interested in attending or starting your own, reach out to us at info@thetendisciplines.com and we'll take it from there.
00:03:08 - 00:04:11
Gino Wickman
Back to the Shine meeting.
What was interesting about this meeting is that judgment number three, others judging us, kept coming up throughout the meeting. It came up over and over again.
Each time a participant talked about something they wanted to accomplish, it surfaced.
One example was someone starting a new business. They were a successful entrepreneur who had sold a previous business and were launching another one. They were concerned about how certain people in their life might react and judge that decision.
Another example was someone making a major change in their business that would shake some people up, and they were deeply concerned about that judgment.
Another example was someone making major changes in the balance of their life and they were deeply concerned about their employees' reaction. Again, judgment of others.
00:04:12 - 00:04:43
Gino Wickman
It kept coming up over and over.
We would drill down on that judgment, and there were so many breakthroughs that day. People began to see the barrier, let it go, and feel much more confident and clear about pursuing the future they wanted.
I'm intentionally keeping this vague so you can apply it to yourself, because most of us experience this.
00:04:43 - 00:05:20
Gino Wickman
The idea here is to pay attention to whether the judgment of others is holding you back.
Think about this right now.
What is the number one thing you want to accomplish?
The number one thing you want to become?
The number one thing you want in your life right now?
00:05:20 - 00:05:57
Gino Wickman
As you're thinking about that thing, and if you need to pause to come up with it, I really want you to have it clearly in your mind.
Hold it in your mind. Ideally write it down if you're not driving.
See it in your mind. Feel it in your bones. Assume there are no barriers and no financial restrictions. Whatever that thing is, it is 100 percent possible and it will absolutely happen.
Take yourself there.
00:05:58 - 00:07:07
Gino Wickman
My question to you is: what comes up in that place?
Are there any people holding on to you?
Are there any people judging you?
Do you notice any fear of how people in your life might react if you accomplish that thing?
It could be your parents, friends, family members, coworkers, neighbors, clients, employees, or your audience.
Are they thinking, what happened to Joe? What happened to Sue?
Would you have their full support? Would they judge you? And is that holding you back in any way?
00:07:09 - 00:07:54
Gino Wickman
In this place, I want to share one of my favorite quotes.
We all want to be unconditionally loved for who we really are.
Think of three names. Three people who might be judging you for pursuing the thing you're imagining.
Write down those names.
If you only come up with one, that's fine. Ideally you come up with none, but I don't know if that's possible.
Write the names down. That might lead to a conversation you need to have.
00:07:54 - 00:08:44
Gino Wickman
More importantly, I want to flip this on you.
Those names you wrote down, are you judging them?
Do you truly love them unconditionally for who they really are?
If you are judging them in any way, that might be the root of why you're feeling judgment from them.
Something to think about.
Spend a minute on that and see if an insight arises.
00:08:44 - 00:09:27
Gino Wickman
Now let's come back to this thing you want and the potential judgment holding you back.
I want to close with this.
You are meant to shine.
Your soul wants to be free.
Let your freak flag fly.
You deserve it.
You deserve it.
You deserve it.
Don't let anyone stop you.
For what it's worth, I'm saying this for you as much as I'm saying it for me.
00:09:28 - 00:09:41
Gino Wickman
Thank you for listening in today. We truly appreciate you taking the time to spend with us.
Please tune in for the next episode. Until then, we wish you all the best in freeing your True Self.
Stay focused and much love.
